Fewer things are more heartbreaking than learning your kid is lonely. And if you’re feeling that way, imagine how your kid feels sitting in the cafeteria alone, being left out of weekend plans, or feeling invisible to their peers.
Loneliness isn’t healthy for kids or adults, and it’s not something we should ignore. Extended periods of loneliness can lead to social isolation, anxiety, despair, and even depression, so recognizing the signs of loneliness early is really helpful.
Recent family changes. If you’ve moved recently, your kid will likely experience some initial loneliness. Other family changes that can create loneliness include the birth of a new sibling, an older sibling leaving home, divorce, or a family member’s new job.
Withdrawl or expressing sadness. If you notice your child spending more time by themselves than usual, pay attention—they might’ve had an argument or disagreement with someone, which could lead to loneliness. Sadness and loneliness often accompany each other, so keep an eye out for any shifts in your kid’s mood.
Talks about feeling left out. Your kid may not have the precise vocabulary to express loneliness, but they may describe it in other terms. If this happens often, consider loneliness as the cause.
Won’t leave your side. A lonely kid may be so desperate for interaction and attention, they become very clingy toward their parents or caregivers.
Doesn’t talk about social activities. If your child never talks about what they did with classmates or who they interacted with throughout their day, it may be because they aren’t interacting at all.
Attention seeking. Some lonely kids try really hard to get attention, both from adults and other kids. Some will start acting out, while others will work to become the center of attention. Kids and teens who are lonely may also display other behavioral changes or become disruptive, both at home and school.
Loss of interest. Kids and teens who are lonely may lose interest in activities they once enjoyed, especially if the person they did the activity with isn’t doing it with them anymore.
Humans are wired for connection, and loneliness can be a pretty big disruptor to everyday life. To help your kid navigate loneliness, check out the rest of the article written by licensed professional counselor, Dr. Chinwé Williams.
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