For many of us, the holiday season is a time that is anticipated with joy…and anxiety. Sure, we love the celebrations, traditions, and the memories of holidays gone by. But along with all the good things, there’s also the stress of preparation, expectations and the fear of letdowns, or family tension that never quite goes away.  

But there is a way to enjoy the holidays a little bit more than you have in times past. Here are 10 intentional ways to restore some of the wonder and delight in the holiday season not just for your kids, but for you, too:

1. Set manageable expectations.

Spend some time now setting realistic and manageable expectations for your holiday season. Be realistic and upfront about what your family can do by making a list of what’s possible and prioritize your most important events and activities for you and your family.

2. Remember the holiday season does not eliminate sadness or loneliness.

For some, the holiday season evokes painful memories from recent events or the loss of loved ones. Give room for yourself and your family to experience and express these feelings. 

3. Acknowledge the past but look toward the future. 
Determine to enjoy this holiday season for what it is. Acknowledging the past, whether it was good or bad, is appropriate. Try not to compare today with the “good old days” and take advantage of the joys the present holiday season has to offer.

4. Develop and encourage a life of gratitude. 
Gratitude transcends circumstances. While your circumstances may never change, your attitude toward them can change, and this can make all the difference during the holiday season and beyond. 

5. Do something for someone else. 
Even if this has been a difficult year for you and your family, helping others will help you shift your perspective on your circumstances and add a layer or richness to the holiday season.

6. Enjoy activities that are affordable or free. 
There are many good holiday-related activities that will add to your family’s enjoyment that are either free or low-cost. Remember, your kids won’t remember the stuff, they’ll just remember how they felt.

7. Enjoy a family holiday tradition. 
Traditions provide opportunities to maintain your family’s legacy and create meaningful memories. 

8. Try something new. 
Traditions are great, but sometimes, families find themselves in a rut, celebrating the holidays in exactly the same way year after year. Think about finding a new way to celebrate the holiday season this year. You may just create a new tradition that will keep going for generations.

9. Spend money responsibly. 
The holiday season often brings with it the temptation to spend lots of money, especially when it comes to purchasing gifts for your family. Don’t be afraid to say no to this temptation. Decide now to be financially responsible this holiday season.

10. Carve out some time for yourself. 
Don’t take on all of the responsibilities of your family’s holiday celebrations by yourself. Share the load. Create some space during the holidays for you to recharge your own batteries.